Warning: Tough Love Ahead

I keep seeing posts on facebook that are something along the lines of "I don't have a model body, I eat food, I wear my PJs all day, I'm not going to be a superstar and I'm not going to change. Love me for me."

First - and least importantly - those who have good bodies do eat. I've seen it first hand. And they eat more than carrots I promise. But that's not my main point.

When I read these...to me, these are cop-outs. It's entirely important that you be yourself and you should work to love yourself and everything you are. But I hear people (women especially) say things like this in a way and with a tone that shows that they love their current, unmoving, unchanging self because they don't believe they can be more. When encouraged to try something new or try a self improvement program their response is defensive. How dare you suggest they change??

Here's some tough love for you: You can be happy and love yourself while working to improve! If you've ever said "This is what I am. Love it or leave it." when you knew in your heart of hearts that you wanted to be better, all you feared is what being greater could mean. Stop hiding behind that. Love who you are - YES! - but don't be afraid to embrace what you can become for that is where true strength lies.

I beg of you - stop settling! Deciding to be more is a decision that anyone can make, regardless of how happy you think you are. As you make progress you'll realize how much more fulfilled you feel, even if you thought you felt complete before.

Once you decide, progress won't be overnight. You won't wake up tomorrow with Heidi Klum's body and bank account. But once you're on a path, everything is different. You carry yourself differently and you approach life with a control you've never known before.